Day 1 of 7 Days of Marriage Wisdom.
Day 1 , whew, this one is hard. Be the person you would want to be married to. Have you noticed, or have I told you, I am hard to live with. I blame it on being the baby of the family. I blame it on having a husband that still treats me like the baby of the family. But you know what is cool about that? He is the baby of his family as well. He is amazing! Totally amazing.
It is very rare that I wake up in the mornings that my husband is not smiling at me and wanting a hug, cuddle or just be together. It is like he wakes up looking forward to just spending time with me. I have to admit, it sometimes drives me CRAZY. I am not a morning person at all. I would really rather just get up, not talk to anyone for at least 1 hour and then slowly integrate into the world of communication. I guess you could say it is true when opposites attract.
When I sit back and think about this, that is a joy in my life, I actually get sad when he wakes up and is not feeling as well or maybe just got up on the wrong side of the bed. I do like it when he wants to spend time with me, even at the crack of dawn. (well maybe that time is like 8 a.m.).
Today, I spent time with him in more of an intentional way. I woke up and chose to smile, chose to talk and chose to take a moment and just hug him all before he had a chance to do it. I think it actually caught him off guard because he came back to me a couple of times before he headed out the door just for one last kiss.
What did I do the rest of the day?
- Changed my phone screen to his picture. This sounds cheesy, but I am on my phone all the time during the day. What a better way to keep my husband in my thoughts than to see his picture every time I am on the phone.
- Sent him a text just to say hello in the middle of the day. No agenda, not asking for anything, just to say Hello. (Do you hear the Lionel Richie song playing in the background?
- Took a little longer to get ready this morning. Ok, ladies, you know what I mean on this don’t you? Sometimes it is really easy to just throw your hair up in a cute pony tail and go. It looks nice, it looks acceptable but do our husbands really like it? I learned this past week from mine, he really doesn’t think it looks that cute. My first response was, well, it is easy and neat. He really doesn’t want to see easy and neat all the time. So today, Hot rollers and hair spray came out.
- Prayed for my husband intentionally. I use to ask my husband as he walked out the door how I could pray for him. I have not done that in a very long time. Honestly, he got out the door before I could ask that question but I spent time today praying for him. I know the struggles he is having in some areas right now and I prayed for them. This is something that I feel guilty about not doing daily. I quickly say a prayer for him each day but not intentionally sitting down and praying for my husband has not been my daily routine. This is something I would want my husband to do for me.
This day was not as hard as I thought it would be. I am a picky picky woman and it was a little challenging to be the person that I would want to be married to today. I had to really keep asking my self is this reality or desire. If you have been reading for a while on this site, you know Gregg and I have been together over 25 years now and sometimes it is hard to let old habits die.