The Greatest Gift You Can Give Your Kids This Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s day can be so stressful when you are looking for gifts for your children. There is so much that you could give them from Chocolate to electronics but think about what these teach them. You know… teach them long term. Isn’t this holiday celebration about showing love to the people that are dear and close to you? The greatest gift you can give your kids this valentine’s day is to model love to your kids.
Sure Chocolate is good, the electronics will make you the super parent but all of this is fleeting. Over the 26+ years of parenting, I have done many things wrong but there have been some things that I have found to be great advice that I feel is worth sharing. Modeling love to others might be one of the better advice I have been able to do with my children.
Ways to Model Love to Your Children
- Model Love to your neighbor. Don’t be the neighbor that drives into the garage and doesn’t even think twice about getting to know your neighbors. Take time and get to know your neighbors. Get to know them enough that you can talk about them in your home. So you can pray for them and serve them. One of the greatest gifts is to show your children how small acts of kindness is a way to love your neighbor.
- Model Love to Your Extended Family. Busy lifestyles are everyone’s biggest issue when it comes to keeping up with extended family. Take time to talk about your extended family to your children. Pay attention to special days, holidays and maybe sicknesses and make a point to do something for that family member on that day. You might not be able to connect for every event but doing what you can and involving your children in the conversation and act of service will show them how to love their extended family.
- Model Love to their teachers, your boss, and co-workers. This one could be hard. It is definitely the one that comes with more resistance. Conflict is usually a part of these relationships from time to time. Conflict with the teacher, the boss, and the co-worker comes up and it is how you respond that your kid will see. You might feel like you are or your child is not being treated fairly and you want to respond in a way to retaliate but showing your children that you can love others when you don’t feel loved back is what is best. Talk with your children on how you respond and resolve issues that are happening in a way that the other will see love coming through. Momma always said honey is sweeter than a sour apple. One of the greatest gifts is to show your children how to love through conflict.
My #1 Way to Model Love to my children
- Model the Love you have for your husband with a passion. This is one that I love the most. What security, comfort, and joy it brings into the home when you children can see that you and your husband love each other. When he walks through the door in the evening, get excited. Take a moment to love on him. You might not get to share details with your children but when you are disagreeing, don’t hide from your kids but show them that even when you disagree, you love each other and going to stand strong together. Make dating your husband a priority. As much time that you spend with your kid’s activities, spend time with your husband as well. Date! You will find it refreshing. Plus your kids will see how you love each other and they will carry that into their marriages. What a legacy to leave them, loving your spouse with a passion.
Giving the gift of love is far more valuable than anything you can buy. Far more lasting than any gift that will be eaten, played with then put up or a trinket sat on a shelf. Spend this Valentine’s season giving the greatest gift you can give to your kids and that is to model love to your kids.