What to do when your kids go away from the Faith they were taught
I am probably writing this and at one point each of you probably have had either a panic attach thinking about this or lived through your children trying to figure out their faith. I honestly can say, I don’t have an answer that fits all situations and also I am still walking through this with our children. So, please don’t think this article will be an “Oh Yeah” moment. It is going to hopefully be one that encourages you and challenges your thinking.
Encouragement for the Weary Parent
I have two children, both in their mid to late twenties. I am so thankful for the fruit I am starting to see in their lives and them working out their faith. I have had many evenings & mornings where I find myself praying for them. Praying and begging God to give me confidence that my children are followers of Christ. I know for me, I wanted to see mountain top experiences with my children but it seems like we spend more time climbing the mountain and usually on the rocky side. Let me share with you some encouragement that has helped me be a better mom and follower of Christ.
Encouragement, not a solution
Prayer: Simple word, hard to commit to. Are you a fixer? I am. I try to fix everything. I have had to learn I can’t fix my children’s relationship with the Father. All I can do is talk to Jesus and share my heart. Commit to pray for your children.
Pray for them. Be sure you are praying for their walk with Christ to be authentic and not what you think their walk should be like.
You are not their Holy Spirit: This was a “coming to Jesus moment” when I finally released my children to Christ. I think I heard my husband over 100 times telling me that I was a helicopter mom. I tried to make my children’s lives comfortable, easier, and problem free. I was so wrong.
You can’t be your children’s Holy Spirit. You have to train up your children and teach them God’s commands then let the Holy Spirit be in control of their lives. It is a huge release when you finally take that step and trust God to be the one to direct your children.
Model your faith, don’t preach it. Deuteronomy 6: 4-9 teaches us to Love the Lord Your God with all your heart, mind and strength. It tells us to love Him alone. This will overflow to your children. They will see the joy you have, the faith you have and the peace you have. Also, they will see that overflow into service to others. This is probably the biggest encouragement I can give you is to Love God will all you have. Live out your faith by your actions and then use words if necessary.
Hopefully, these encouragements will be ones that help make navigating through your children trying to define their faith easier and comforting. When our kids walk away from the faith they were taught doesn’t mean they are not believers, it possibly just could be they don’t express their faith the same as you.